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Meet Vivian


Vivian's story

Electrolysis Support Fund recipient

Vivian (she/her) is a 40-year-old woman of transgender experience who has lived in Iowa for the greater part of two decades. When Vivian came out, it was not well received; the family unit she had built was not supportive, and divorce followed swiftly after. Her adopted family, influenced by propaganda about crossing the gender divide, completely cut her out. Faced with legal ramifications and the cost of defending herself and her right to be a parent in divorce proceedings, Vivian was forced to choose between giving up the financial security she had built both before and after meeting her soon-to-be ex or gambling on the courts agreeing to give her split custody of her child. Having grown up as a child of an ugly divorce with an absentee parent, Vivian's decision was not a difficult one with regards to what was best for her child.

However, this meant starting completely over: no savings, mounting legal fees, and a mountain of credit card debt and loans. She has worked to provide for her child first and herself second, barely finding at times the money to keep her hair removal going. Unfortunately, insurance has not been compliant in covering what they should.

"I just hope for the day where leaving my house doesn't also require me to put on my emotional armor of being a woman with a beard and dealing with the stares that come with that. This will greatly help me catch my breath financially, and I couldn't be more thankful."

Vivian is an avid reader and works to share that joy with her child. One of her favorite things to do is to create stories for her child that involve her favorite stuffed animals. That love for reading and storytelling has worked itself well into her voicework, and she also uses her skillsets to help others of trans identities find their true voice as well.

Vivian's timeline

  • Award Granted

    April 9, 2024

    Vivian was awarded a grant toward permanent hair removal!

  • Care Received

    May 8, 2024

    A payment has been made toward Vivian's permanent hair removal!

Grant details

$2,000 towards gender-affirming care.

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About Hair Removal: Femme Award

On average, it costs $2,300+ for Vivian's care.

What is it?

Point of Pride provides grants to trans femme people seeking hair removal on their face, neck, or an area of the body in preparation for bottom surgery.

What is life like for a person who needs this care?

For trans femme folks, particularly trans femmes of color, access to facial hair removal often equates to safety against anti-trans violence or discrimination. It's common for applicants to note issues with employment and public safety, particularly if their facial hair is dark or thick. Electrolysis and laser hair removal services are often deemed cosmetic and therefore not covered by health insurance plans.

What is the impact of this care on the recipient’s life?

Access to hair removal often leads to a more positive emotional well-being, increased confidence, increased safety when in public, and better opportunities at employment and more.